Second chance?

by Donna
(Edison, NJ)

Do you believe in giving second chances? I dated a guy a few months ago, but it didn't work out. He's been reaching out to me, and I'm not sure if I should go back out with him.

My Advice:
Hi Donna,

There's not much information here about your relationship with this person. How did he treat you? Why did you stop seeing him? Without knowing the details it's hard to give the best advice.

That said, I do believe in second chances if you believe in the person's potential, and if your good feelings about the relationship outweigh the bad ones. It gets a little tricky when you're dealing with a person's potential, because it can sometimes cause you to hold onto a relationship longer than you should. If a relationship is not progressing at a pace that you're comfortable with it might be time to move on. You can move on completely, or keep seeing Mr. Potential as long as you keep your options open and date other available men.

Donna, if you like this guy and the relationship didn't end badly I don't see any harm in going out with him again. Take it slow, and see what happens. Hopefully, you've had some time to reflect on the relationship, and you'll know soon enough if giving him a second chance is worthwhile.

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